His momma don’t like me.
But she really doesn’t like anyone. Really, it’s nothing new, certainly not to me. As of February 14th, my husband and I have been together 24 years. My mother-in-law has not liked me since 1992.
When we first met, he was in a very dysfunctional relationship. His mom told me that she and his dad had been praying for someone to come along and change his mind about that relationship. I can imagine the look on my face when she was saying this. **smile**sweetly tilts head** She proceeds to say, “but we had hoped it would be a male friend or a pastor. Not another woman.” I guess that should be a lesson in being careful what we pray for.
It has never been healthy for us to go visit. Even before we were married there were snide remarks and inappropriate actions. I’ve heard stories of mother-in-laws who were hateful because they felt like the wife “stole” their little boy. Thankfully, it’s not like that. It’s more about attention. But what she does is just crazy stuff. Hateful stuff.
After being in the “family” a while, it did not take long to realize how destructive my mother-in-law really was. I got to know my sister-in-law well, and could see how the atmosphere in which she and my husband grew up directly related to who they were, how they thought, how they acted and reacted, and how they related to people. It has often been a reminder to me of how our environment can screw us up. [Read more…]